a fulfilling sexuality

A fulfilling sexuality is undoubtedly one of the most important factors of balance, happiness and creativity. Psychologists of all schools agree on this point.

The question is what could be a “fulfilling sexuality”. Can a homosexual be deeply satisfied? Can marital relations with their repetitivity, blossom as prescribed by nature, to ensure the offspring’s rising for at least ten years? Are human beings even meant to live as a couple? Is bisexuality, considered fundamental by Freud, a perversion or an innate natural function? Why do adulterous impulses always crop up and provoke jealousy, anxiety and pain, even destroying lives?

The questions are many and answers often confusing or contradictory. Psychologists rarely address the problem in the face. Psychoanalysts seeking unconscious arcane trace the difficulties in adults back to childhood trauma. Poets sing the beauties of love skipping carefully its physiological requirements.

Evolutionary Ecopsychology does not reject any of these approaches, but adds two key questions usually hidden: first, what would be a natural sexuality in the sense of a sexuality that is consistent with the genetic programming of our psyche?
There are certainly a wide range of behaviors likely to decline from the registered base in our genome, like a thousand languages have differentiated data from the innate universal grammar. But it would be essential to know the common denominators of these possibilities, to know where are human nature’s real needs and potential.

Second question: would the problems we face in sexuality in our kind of culture come from not just a too big difference between the behavior admitted or prescribed by environmental stereotypes, and natural behaviors?
Hence derives a series of questions: are natural behaviors less or more aggressive than the current behaviors? Many animals reproduce without the slightest sign of affection. So: is it natural to mix romantic feelings and carnality? And vice versa: is it natural to mix sex with our feelings of love?

Would a natural sexuality be confined to simple moves needed for reproduction, or would it on the contrary win a diversity of relationships and wealth of emotions? Is culture responsible for our sexual fantasies’ polymorphism ? Or has culture instead erased a large share of it?

Another big question is to ask what would be the relationship between sexual drive (polymorphic impulses) and the spiritual dimension. Some primitives mix systematically love and magic. They listen attentively dreams, visions or divinations as to how to manage their relationships. Are they deluding themselves, or are we the one deluding ourselves with our rationalist approach ? Have we lost an essential dimension of things to love?
Impotence, for example, is generally attributed to disorders or physiological or psychological. Shouln’t we wonder to what extent action it translates an unconscious natural reaction against the mistakes we make in our form of sexuality?

We start from the idea that sexuality must be repetitive, lived preferably within a couple. But does that really corresponds to our genetic programming? Aren’t we losing precisely the magical dimension of love, without which it loses its transcendent signifiance?
Facing imbroglio of current knowledge on the subject, and the myriad of unanswered questions arising in Evolutionary Ecopsychology proceed in three steps:

1. Make as much as possible abstraction of prejudice, stereotypes, moral precepts, personal desires, etc., in order to reason on a neutral and objective basis.
2. Observe the facts being careful not to neglect those that might contradict received ideas or in development theory.
3. Challenge the very foundations of the dominant of sexuality and attempt to answer the fundamental question: what would be a natural sexuality, consistent with human nature’s own innate data?

Different methods outlined in the training courses, can converge to answer this question on which depends everything else. It becomes easier to understand why the lines and situations that seem to us culturally normal contradict our deepest aspirations. Easier to treat conditions for expression that are in harmony with these aspirations. Also easier to put on hold when these conditions are not feasible (moral, distances, jealousy, legislation etc.).

In most situations, the messages received through clairvoyance or divination allows to eliminate the difficulties, and sexuality to get back its primary functions in terms of enjoyment of life, creative intuition, extrasensory development, spiritual evolution.